Rachel Estapa was tired of getting the message that a bride is supposed to lose weight for her wedding day- so much so that she unsubscribed from The Knot’s wedding planner app when it notified her that she hadn’t “started a fitness routine to get in shape for the wedding.” Of course everyone wants to be the best version of themselves when they walk down the aisle, but in the wedding world, “best version” is sometimes misinterpreted as “thinnest” and “most beautiful” when it should really mean “healthy, happy and relaxed,” and that’s a problem.
Sure, if working out and eating healthy foods makes you feel good, that’s great, but feeling pressured to yo-yo diet and quantify your self-worth by the number your scale reads on your wedding day is another story, and one that Rachel decided was not going to be hers. In an article she shared with xoJane, Rachel summed it up beautifully: “The day I decided to devote myself to learning body acceptance was one of the best days of my life — not because I figured it all out, but because I was excited to re-write the world on MY terms. I no longer felt bound to some ideal version of myself….Why on Earth would I need to be someone different for a moment that was focused on someone loving me just as I was? And why on Earth can’t a plus-size bride knock it out of the park, beauty-wise?”
From the sound of it, her wedding day was right up there as a best-day-ever, too: “I felt gorgeous and loved, beaming with pure joy.”
To hear Rachel discuss her article on Huffington Post Live, head to her website, More To Love.
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